25 Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of
water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in
all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she
would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own
wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29
for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it,
just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His
body. 31 FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND
SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This
mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the
These are those bible verses that are never
mentioned, when one wants to describe Christianity as a woman oppressing
religion. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself up for her” (v.25).
This is really radical also today! How many of those who attack
Christianity, would be able to fulfill this? And what was it at the time
it was written, when a woman hardly had the value of a donkey!
This is God’s commandment to men! This is how it’s going to be! You
have this to live up to, not to get saved, but because it is after God’s
“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies!”
(v.28). Who doesn’t take care of his own body! The one who by purpose
breaks down his own body, he commits an unnatural, yes, abnormal act.
The natural would be to care for it, for your bodily life depends on
that it works well. To not live completely up to this, is therefore
sin – a sin you need daily forgiveness for, and daily repentance
But this is also about something more,
and deeper, than our human conditions, - it’s about Christ and the
church, Christ and you.
He, when He wants something, or sees something, active with us
humans, it is His own He will see. He wants us to be the way He
is. That is what lies as a foundation for God’s commandments,
prohibitions and commands. It’s the law in one sum, it is God’s will, -
this is how God is!
And also here, how He wants the relationship between the spouses is
how He wants His relationship with you. And just think about what is
written about spouses: They are one! He wants to be one
with you, - and that is also what happened, from the moment, when you
started believing in Him, as your Savior and redeemer, given to you of
the Father. You became one with Him! Jesus created a covenant: “This cup
which is poured out for you is the new covenant in My blood.”
First: About this covenant – this blood – it says further: “…poured
out for you” (Luke22:20b). Second of all: Do you think the Lord wants to
break His covenant? And third of all – as you heard: This covenant is
His blood! The blood is the covenant! – What is poured out for
you. To an atonement for your sins. He is really your blood
bridegroom! – He won you – He bought you – with His own blood. And He
isn’t the one who breaks His covenant with you.
If a divorce has to happen in a marriage, yes, at least one part
must want to, and will go through with it. We understand that. But when
we stand before the covenant we are dealing with here – the covenant He
has created with you – who would then be the other part? Who would want
a divorce, and go through with it? It had to be you! He who paid so much
to have you, would He be the one to part with you again? Grasp this now!
Paul calls it a secret, this relationship
between the Lord and the congregation. This church of which it says: “He
purchased with His own blood.” (Acts 20:28).
You should be aware of this, when you read the word of God that for
God people is never a flock, but always individuals. Also when it
comes to the congregation, He never sees it as a mass substance. The
congregation for Him is the individual together with the others.
And then this, completely incredible, that He even has account on how
many strand of hair we have on our head. He sees and pays attention to
them all! – They are counted (Luke 12:7). Can you grasp that? And then
He would look at the congregation as a mass substance! No, Christ
and the congregation, is Christ and the individual, which
together constitutes the congregation.
Perhaps we ought to look at it more like that? Not think as church
communities or organization names – because that means nothing at the
end, no, not here and now either, if you are affiliated with something
like that, - but the individual, who lives in a confidential communion
with the Lord, on the safe foundation of the blood. That is the
congregation! – The individual who Jesus has bought, paid and cleansed
in His own blood, from all blemish and sins. And as it is said in our
passage: He nourishes and warms it, as we nourishes and warms our own
body. Remain in this, and think after – when you feel the hunger, you
get something to eat, to calm this hunger. When you are freezing you
wrap yourself in with your clothes well around you, so that you can keep
warm, everything so that the body is comfortable.
This is simple and easy and ordinary, but just think about that
this is Jesus relationship with the congregation! He feels its adversity,
sorrows, need and difficulties, as it was His own body. You are a limb
on His body, says the Word (v.30). He can feel it when you get hurt,
like you can feel a pain in your finger, in a foot or something else.
Just think about how quickly you feel, and discover, pain and
distaste. We cannot grasp His proportion to us, but it is worth to try
and learn about it. Because “This mystery is great,” as Paul
writes here (v.32).
Is it strange that we so often goes empty
and cold, as little as we seek into this. To be a part of “the activity,”
as it is called, is not the same – and that is certainly not what we are
speaking about here now! We are speaking about “His indescribable gift!”
(2 Cor.9:15). That we are betrothed, with a man, to present a
pure virgin for Christ, as it says in God’s word (2 Cor.11:2).
We shall be aware for what we let our heart cling to – also
what so called Christian activity is about.
“For this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall
become one flesh” (v.31). One can put behind the things of old. And that
means that that shall happen. When you have entered into a marriage, you
are in a completely new life situation, a completely different one than
you were in before, and you have to conduct yourself to that. Leave
former things, not to be inverted, but because you are. You are one
flesh with Christ!
New American Standard Version
Translator:Benedicte H. Smart